I hate to start a post on a negative note, but the current dating scene is pretty bleak. You may know people who say dating is fun, but I may venture to say that those people are not looking for the person they want to spend the rest of their life with. My experiences have not been completely awful, but I have definitely not been overly impressed by you men out there.
Here are what I consider to be some pretty simple tips for you guys out there that might help – at least from my perspective.
1. Call at some point.
I know the norm for communication in this day and age is texting, messaging, and email. I have come to accept the fact that this is true. But if you’re pursuing a girl, call. At least to set up the date or confirm the date. Yes it will be a little awkward, and no you don’t have to have a 30 minute conversation, but it shows you’re actual interested and looking forward to meeting up!
2. Make a move.
I realize that a lot of dating happens online now. That’s great – I’ve been on numerous sites myself. But don’t start messaging with a girl….and keep messaging….and keep messaging….and never ask her out. You’re wasting her time and your own. Send a few messages and if it seems like you both have some common interests, ask her out and meet in person. And yes, I still believe the guy should ask her out.
3. Make a plan.
I’m all for independent women. I consider myself a pretty independent woman considering I’ve been single forever. But if you’re a guy, asking a girl out, you should plan the date. Take charge. Sure, you can find out if she has any major hangups with particular food. Or just pick a place that has normal food with a variety of options.
4. Make an effort.
You don’t have to take a girl to a fancy, $$$-rated restaurant (at least not for me). Go to a laid-back coffee shop or bar for a drink. Pick a restaurant with a fun atmosphere. Just make it appear that you put some thought into the date.
5. Be specific.
Tell your date if you’re just meeting for drinks or if you also want to grab dinner. Especially if you suggest a time like 7pm. That could go either way – and either way is fine – but specify what you are thinking so the girl isn’t left guessing.
6. Don’t go AWOL.
If, after going out with a girl, you’re not feeling it, that’s fine. But whether it’s after one date or five, tell her that. Don’t just stop calling or texting. It’s just common courtesy, and actually the same goes for the ladies out there. Just tell him.
Again, I feel that these are pretty general and helpful tips for guys, though some ladies may feel different about certain ones. If any guy readers out there would like to guest write a post with similar tips for girls let me know!