I posted in the fall about Andy Stanley’s sermon series on Love, Sex, & Dating. Now, years after the sermon, there is a book! I mentioned Singles Series at Buckhead Church – the most recent being Dateable – and Andy was the speaker for Part 3. Andy kicked off 2015 with the release of the book version of The New Rules for Love, Sex, & Dating and was kind enough to give everyone (we’re talking 2,000+ people) a copy of the book at Singles Series!
The premise is the same as the sermon, with two main messages to keep in mind:
- meeting the “right” person will not make everything better or ok
- strive to become the person the person you’re looking for is looking for
Read #2 a few times. Read it slowly. Got it, now?
You can’t expect someone else to “fix” you or fix certain things in your life – just because there’s another person involved doesn’t mean those problems go away – and actually, adding another person in the mix will make it even more complicated. Andy gives a lot of examples. He gives good reasons for his suggestions and guidelines for relationships. And no, it’s never “because the Bible says so” or “because that what Christians do.” He gives logical, often psychologically-based reasoning and arguments on navigating relationships. And yes, sex is a big part of it – but not the only part of it. There are so many things that go into a successful relationship. And I’m not going to lie, the world of relationships and marriage is a little daunting when you have a 50% divorce rate breathing down your back.
But if you’re confident in who you are and who you’re looking for, then the person you are looking for will be the person who is looking for you and everyone will live happily ever after! Well, yes, that’s a little strong – and that’s my own digression, not Andy’s. It WAS funny to hear him, at Singles Series, praising online dating. If you’ve read my blog for a little while, you’ll know online dating hasn’t really been my cup of tea (parts 1, 2, or 3) – but I agree that if you’re going to have a list you might as well be able to see the other person’s list – it does take some guess work out of it.
Anyway – I could go down all kinds of rabbit holes with this topic, but I enjoyed the book. It did seem to get a little repetitive towards the end, but it’s not very long and it’s an easy read. If you’re single read it. Whether you’re a Christian or not I think you should read it. At least hear what he has to say and consider it. Enjoy!