Aziz Ansari (yes, the comedian) teamed up with sociologist Eric Klinenberg to investigate the world of romance in today’s age – appropriately named Modern Romance. This book was like my holy grail – combining something I discuss and read about (and sometimes write about) a lot – relationships/dating – with qualitative research and analysis. And of course Aziz keeps the jokes coming. This is not a self-help book, it isn’t out to tell you how to date (though it does offer some good suggestions), and doesn’t promise to make you more desirable or a better dater. What it does, though, is offer some real data on the state of dating and relationships.
They collected data in numerous ways including focus groups and interviews in different locations (large & small American cities as well as internationally), talking to audience members at shows, creating a Reddit forum, consulting experts on the topic, and reviewing books, studies, and articles.
Now to me none of the information was completely earth-shattering or new, but it was interesting to feel like I am not alone in many of my feelings and experiences with dating. Even if you’re not single, this is a fascinating read. Ansari covers the history of dating and relationships, how people meet, who people marry, why people marry (and how all of that has changed), the pros and cons of technology in today’s dating world (texting, online and app dating), methods of asking people out, how to ask someone out, what to do on a date….pretty much any topic related to dating and relationships he covers.
This is a quick read that is informative and entertaining. And everyone *cough*guys*cough can get some good tips. Really, though, everyone can pick up a few tips when it comes to the opposite sex. Check it out and enjoy!
“Finding someone today is probably more complicated and stressful than it was for previous generations – but you’re also more likely to end up with someone you are really excited about”