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Modern Romance

Aziz Ansari (yes, the comedian) teamed up with sociologist Eric Klinenberg to investigate the world of romance in today’s age – appropriately named Modern Romance. This book was like my holy grail – combining something I discuss and read about (and sometimes write about) a lot – relationships/dating – with qualitative research and analysis. And of course Aziz keeps the jokes coming. This is not a self-help book, it isn’t out to tell you how to date (though it does offer some good suggestions), and doesn’t promise to make you more desirable or a better dater. What it does, though, is offer some real data on the state of dating and relationships.

They collected data in numerous ways including focus groups and interviews in different locations (large & small American cities as well as internationally), talking to audience members at shows, creating a Reddit forum, consulting experts on the topic, and reviewing books, studies, and articles.

Now to me none of the information was completely earth-shattering or new, but it was interesting to feel like I am not alone in many of my feelings and experiences with dating. Even if you’re not single, this is a fascinating read. Ansari covers the history of dating and relationships, how people meet, who people marry, why people marry (and how all of that has changed), the pros and cons of technology in today’s dating world (texting, online and app dating), methods of asking people out, how to ask someone out, what to do on a date….pretty much any topic related to dating and relationships he covers.

This is a quick read that is informative and entertaining. And everyone *cough*guys*cough can get some good tips. Really, though, everyone can pick up a few tips when it comes to the opposite sex. Check it out and enjoy!

“Finding someone today is probably more complicated and stressful than it was for previous generations – but you’re also more likely to end up with someone you are really excited about”


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Mathematics of Love

I’m training for a half marathon – my first in over 3 years – and my long runs are starting to get long. Playlists get old when you’re running at least 4 times a week, so I’m trying out podcasts instead! I started with the TED Talks station because I used to watch them regularly but haven’t in a while. This just happened to be one of the first ones on the podcast station – I promise I’m not obsessed with dating and relationships – I just come across plenty of material about it. It’s like when you get a new car and all of a sudden everyone is driving that car.

Anyway – this is entertaining. I don’t necessarily subscribe to these theories, but Hannah Fry presents the mathematical reasoning behind online dating, who to marry, and how to stay married. Nothing, especially something complex like relationships, can be completely explained by a simple math formula. But the logic she uses about online dating is very interesting!

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Love, Sex, & Dating

When I moved to Atlanta and asked people for church recommendations I heard one answer over and over: Buckhead Church. I started attending 2 years ago and may never leave. Andy Stanley is a great speaker – he preaches on a level that you can understand, can relate to, and get something out of (at least most the time; you’re unrealistic if you expect to get life-changing information out of every single message).

And just like people kept telling me to go to Buckhead Church, I have continuously heard people mention and talk about Andy’s Love, Sex, & Dating series. I finally watched it recently and now understand why people latch onto this series. The fact that Andy would do a series focusing on such a specific population of the church – singles and non-married people – simply shows how important he believes it is. He talks about the things a lot of people, especially churches, don’t want to talk about.

Here’s my challenge to you: watch the whole series. If you’re a Christian or not: watch the whole series. If you’re a male or female: watch the whole series. If you’re not dating right now: watch the whole series. If you aren’t ready to get married but even think you might want to some day: watch the whole series. If you start it and are hating it: finish the whole series. I bet you can take away at least one piece of useful information or that you’ll hear something that will at least make you think.

Buckhead Church series

Buckhead Church series