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Love and Respect

We love our small group through Buckhead Church and believe in the importance of community. It’s especially great to have other newly married couples in our lives as well as leaders who have been in our shoes. In the year and a half that we’ve been together, we’ve done various studies and books and we just finished Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs.

Most of group had heard of this book and some had it already but hadn’t read it. My husband and I had never heard of it (though I was corrected by my sister-in-law that she told me about it 5 years ago – but I wasn’t married 5 years ago so that apparently went in one ear and out the other).

Overall, we enjoyed the book. The gist is that women crave love, while men crave respect. Obviously it’s never as black and white as it seems, but overall we agree with the book. Dr. Eggerichs goes through the ways that how, as husbands and wives, we do not show love or respect for our spouse, as well as ways to show love and respect to your spouse. I know when I put it this simply it seems very easy. But the book brought up ideas that I had never thought about before and it brought out some great conversation both within our group as well as between my husband and I.

I will say that there were times when the suggestions or topics felt a little out-dated. But again, overall the message was one that was good, that applied to our relationship within our marriage, and that we learned from.

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One Day in December

Surprise, surprise – more love! Sorry I’m not sorry – I love these books. Although I do like a thriller or nonfiction break occasionally (which is coming up soon). One Day in December by Josie Silver was a quick, easy read about missed chances and what-ifs. It’s not quite a rom com because honestly I didn’t find much humor in it. Some was even a little sad.

Laurie experiences love at first sight through a bus window and is pretty sure the guy felt the same way. But he didn’t make it on the bus before it pulled away (I’m sure in a highly dramatic fashion). She spends the next year searching for ‘bus boy’. (Side note – when you’re dating, you HAVE to have nicknames.) And eventually she does find him….when he is introduced to her as her roommate’s new boyfriend who she is falling head-over-heels for. What would you do?! Would you immediately tell your roommate (who has been searching with you) that she is dating ‘bus boy’??

Laurie has to make this decision and (spoiler alert) she doesn’t say a word. She continues to live with this secret for years and I think it literally eats away at her. The story covers many years and the relationships of the two roommates, both with each other and with their significant others, but it’s not all sunshine and rainbows. I won’t give everything away because where’s the fun in that.

But this would make another GREAT movie, as with my last book, and if you like the cheesy, gushy stories (but with a little more real life thrown in) this one is for you. Enjoy!



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Every Breath

I used to read Nicholas Sparks books as soon as they were printed, but I haven’t read any of his in a long time. They honestly got to be a little predictable and blah. But my mom brought one of his newer books to me recently so I gave it a shot.

Every Breath is based on a true story and it’s obviously (if you know anything about Sparks’ novels) a love story. Main character, Hope, is “on a break” in her relationship and escapes to her family’s beach house to think about some things. Other main character, Tru, born and raised in Africa, receives a letter and plane ticket from his biological father, who he has never met before. Tru, of course, ends up staying at the beach house next to Hope’s and they have an instant connection.

They spent a little less than a week together, walking the beach, cooking dinner, getting to know each other. They visit a known nearby destination called Kindred Spirit – a mailbox where people leave stories, letters, and thoughts and other people can come and read them. Kindred Spirit will play an incredible role in their story later on.

Again, I’m always torn on how much detail to give. The story is pretty absurd but you can expect nothing less from a Sparks novel. It’s a story of love, loss, and making difficult decisions. Good, quick read. Enjoy!

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The Language of Love

No relationship is perfect – be it romantic or friendship, there will be ups and downs. There are many ways to show someone that you care – but everyone values those various ways differently. And in any relationship it can be helpful to not only know you’re own preferences, but also the preferences of the other person. For example, some people don’t care about getting actual gifts, but for some people that is how they know to show they care. I had heard of the 5 love languages a while ago and had discussions with friends about what their language was, but I just recently did my own profile.

Gary Chapman is a marriage guru and created the love languages series. You can take the survey for free on the website and you can find out what language has the most meaning for you. There are 5 love languages: words of affirmation, acts of service, receiving gifts, quality time, and physical touch. And I think it’s pretty accurate. I had a tie between two: quality time and words of affirmation (described below). Not surprised at all. I’ve added the book to my list so will report back on that after reading – there’s even a singles edition.

Are you single? Learn what your languages mean the most to you and use that info in friendships and future relationships. In a relationship or married? Learn your language and your significant others’ language. Read the description for what matters to them so you can show them you care in the most meaningful way for them. Why would you not want to do that?




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American Young

Another new duo found through my Spotify Discover – American Young. Their voices fit perfectly together. And I really like this song. Despite what anyone thinks or hopes, love – be it romantic, friendship, or family – is never perfect and isn’t always easy. Ok, sure, everyone probably knows that, but I think we all need to be reminded.

Sometimes love is a white flag

Sometimes love is standing tall

Sometimes love is a feather

Sometimes a cannon ball

But it’s worth fighting for

Baby, sometimes love is war


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Mathematics of Love

I’m training for a half marathon – my first in over 3 years – and my long runs are starting to get long. Playlists get old when you’re running at least 4 times a week, so I’m trying out podcasts instead! I started with the TED Talks station because I used to watch them regularly but haven’t in a while. This just happened to be one of the first ones on the podcast station – I promise I’m not obsessed with dating and relationships – I just come across plenty of material about it. It’s like when you get a new car and all of a sudden everyone is driving that car.

Anyway – this is entertaining. I don’t necessarily subscribe to these theories, but Hannah Fry presents the mathematical reasoning behind online dating, who to marry, and how to stay married. Nothing, especially something complex like relationships, can be completely explained by a simple math formula. But the logic she uses about online dating is very interesting!

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Love Does

This book makes me want to live a better life. Do you need more of a review than that?!

But really. Love Does by Bob Goff is intriguing, exciting, and challenging. He is an amazing storyteller and uses stories from his life – paralleled with the life God wants us to lead – and inspires you to dream a bigger and better life. But he doesn’t do it in a way that is unrealistic. He encourages readers to take small steps in order to achieve their goals and, of course, by loving, which is the exact way God wants us to live. Loving others as well as ourselves fully is the first step to living a full and satisfying life.

I want to share a full excerpt from the book that I think pretty much sums up the entire thing and a perfect example of how I want to live: fully. I really hope you read this book and are as inspired as I am. (And there’s even a little unexpected surprise at the end.)

I get the invitation ever morning when I wake up to actually live a life of complete engagement, a life of whimsy, a life where love does. It doesn’t come in an envelope. It’s ushered in by a sunrise, the sound of a bird, or the smell of coffee drifting lazily from the kitchen. It’s the invitation to actually live, to fully participate in this amazing life for one more day. Nobody turns down an invitation to the White House, but I’ve seen plenty of people turn down an invitation to fully live. 

Turning down this invitation comes in lots of flavors. It looks like numbing yourself or distracting yourself or seeing something really beautiful as just normal. It can also look like refusing to forgive or not being grateful or getting wrapped around the axle with fear or envy. I think every day God sends us an invitation to live and sometimes we forget to show up or get head-faked into thinking we haven’t really been invited. But you see, we have been invited – every day, all over again.